Being married to nigerians can be tough ?

[vronnie]

I came across this topic on another form and as an afro american who is getting ready to mary a nigerian I wanted to know what makes it tough.My personal feeling is that marriage is always work in progress ,so maybe Im missing something so please let me know what you guy's think.

[Yago]

When you marry a Nigerian, you marry his whole family. As a matter of fact if you are married to a Nigerian and have never met his parents (assuming they are living) thread with caution. No matter what a Nigerian says, they don't joke with their parents.
Sometimes, the younger siblings can be a pest and you don't want to be labeled as the witch woman or wizard --lol
You have to teach most Nigerian male how to take vacation. You have to do this with tact and love or you could be labeled as the spendrift wife --lol
I am sure others have more to add, most might point at the extreme but you will be able to get the whole picture some how.

[fulani]

It can't be harder than to be married to a ....Korean!!!

My point is we all come with different types of baggage. So you learn how to deal with each situation.

Yago pointed out a few important points that I agree you should pay close attention to. Getting the family involved early is a good idea. If they feel left out of the decision making process you may have some resistance later.

The trick is to make all involved feel important from the get go.

[vronnie]

You know that's not so different than A A culture my family is very close ,and large(10 of us) from two different mothers so I do not think the family part as being tough .When I read the caption I was wondering what could be so tough about it . And Im still wondering .

[oluranti]

It is only as tough as cutting a pice of meat with your teeth. I guess tha's one of the things teeth are meant for, isn't it? Nigerians cherish their culture, so regardless of where you come from, respect our culture and you won't have any problem.

Two, it depends on the family you marry into. My family for instance dont even have time monitoring my wife or my younger sister's husband because we all are educated; to Master's degree level at the university, each one is gainfully employed and our parents are well catered for. So tell me who has time to poke nose? People do that when they are idle and that is not restricted to Nigeria alone. In the western world you call them busybody!

Relax, you are with the right man. Nigerians are hospitable and accommodating.

[omowhy]

To marry a Nigerian woman is a very serious thing. You have to like carry the family along, extended family and that. And sometimes you have to follow your parents choice or trouble. It was when i got married that i had problems with my parents, my mum refuse to let go, I don't blame her because we were very close. My mum was against it from the beginning but i followed my heart.